What is Food Neutrality?
Do you struggle with seeing food in black and white, either all “good” or all “bad”? Do your food choices affect how successful or accomplished you feel at the end of the day? If so, you’re not alone.
We are inundated with messages about food, nutrition, and health daily. For someone aiming to build a positive relationship with food, either for themselves or a child, a good place to start is to practice food neutrality.
What is food neutrality?
Food neutrality is the practice of unlearning dichotomous and moralistic thinking (i.e., good vs. bad) when it comes to food. It helps us work toward being more objective in how we think about food and helps shift our language about food and eating.
At this point, I suspect you may have some questions. Questions like…
How will being neutral about food help me make healthy choices?
What’s so wrong about calling foods good/bad or even healthy/unhealthy?
How will my child learn how to eat well if we don’t teach them about healthy or unhealthy foods?
Let me address these questions.
Working on feeling more neutral about food can help individuals make *healthier* food choices if we are defining “health” in a way that considers our mental and emotional health as well as our physical health. We can recognize apples, and donuts are not nutritionally equal. However, they both provide physical nourishment (like energy and carbohydrates). Both foods can also support our mental and emotional health by allowing us to honor cravings or taste hunger, enjoy foods with others, and celebrate holidays. Alternatively, denying ourselves foods we enjoy or feeling bad about ourselves after we eat something we have deemed “bad” or “unhealthy” can have negative effects on our mental and emotional well-being.
When we associate some foods as “good” or “healthy” and some as “bad” or “unhealthy”, it sets up our brains to view food as a dichotomy, when in fact, nutrition is very nuanced. The fact is that all foods provide nourishment in the form of some combination of protein, carbohydrates, and fat, things that every human needs. Instead of labeling or categorizing foods, it is often more helpful to approach them with curiosity:
How do I feel after eating this food? How do I want to feel?
Do I enjoy this food?
How does this food support my overall well-being?
For those with kids at home, food neutrality is essential to help young ones maintain their ability to self-regulate. That’s right; kiddos are natural intuitive eaters! Children can also be very literal, black-and-white thinkers. It’s hard for them to understand that they themselves are not “bad” for having cake and ice cream at a birthday party if they received the message that those foods are “bad” or “unhealthy.” (It feels important to mention here that I believe all parents are doing their very best and there is no need to feel badly if you have been using good/bad language at home, and I would encourage you to work towards food neutral language.) Alternative wording you could try could be “growing foods” and “fun/play foods.” Descriptive words like sweet, crunchy, smooth, chewy, cold, fluffy, etc., can also help young ones understand food. Finally, inviting curiosity to the table; “How does your belly feel?”, “How does this food taste?”, “What do you like/dislike about this food?” is another way to help kids learn about food and their body.
For more support on building a positive relationship to food and sustainable habits that support your well-being, please reach out to us to schedule a session!
